The Grounded Woman
1:1 Coaching
The need for survival ran so deep that I forgot who I really was, she was buried beneath my own ability to read other people’s energy, to know what they wanted and expected of me, I was so busy thinking about others and existing outside of myself.
I was so very good at being quiet, flying under the radar, striving to make myself invisible, unnoticed, ordinary. Even after all that, I still experienced misogyny, mistreatment, violated boundaries, judgement and exclusion. It really didn’t keep me safe.
I’m Alysha!
For most of my life I people-pleased, masked, suppressed and hid my true self in an attempt to keep myself safe, driven by the deep fear of judgement, ridicule and exclusion. I didn’t want to be cast out, I just wanted to belong, to be accepted, loved, included and respected. I felt like I was just existing, surviving each day to get to the end of it.
Hello,
The thing about suppressing who you truly are to avoid rejection by others, is you’re making the choice for them and rejecting yourself.
I had a deep yearning that there was more to life than this. I was no longer okay with merely existing and surviving.
I desired more from my life, from my relationships and from my work.
I wanted so much more for my daughter than the example I was giving her.
That realisation was the beginning of the end.
Every time you look outside yourself for comfort and validation.
Every time you say yes when you mean no.
Every time you choose not to express your needs and feelings, you’re not only denying yourself, you’re denying the other person the opportunity to respond to you.
Your true self is speaking to you and you’re turning away from her and that HURTS.
Things started to shift within me after I gave birth to
my daughter.
The end of...
Being in relationships that did me more harm than good.
Sacrificing all my time and energy for ‘work’ that left me feeling exhausted, depleted and unfulfilled.
Accepting the beliefs that life is meant to be hard, full of sacrifices and that we can’t have everything we want.
Trying to fulfil society’s expectation that I’ve got to do it all and that being ‘busy’ is a mark of honour that shows I’m succeeding
at life.
Listening to everyone else’s opinions and advice as though it has a higher rank than my own thoughts, feelings and intuition.
The end of clinging onto my past decisions …
The beginning of...
Learning to trust myself.
Learning that it’s okay to change my mind.
Letting go of what was no longer serving me in my life - jobs, relationships, dream properties and learning that in doing so does NOT mean I have failed.
I started to welcome, initiate and embrace change..
I began to look at my thoughts, feelings and actions and take notice of why I did things the way I did, and do I even need to do it that way anymore?
I questioned what I believed in, what I valued in my life, in myself and in other people.
Once I started asking myself these questions on a deep level I realised how little I knew myself and just how much I was letting my outside world influence me.
So I made a commitment...
To learn about myself.
To embrace the woman I truly am.
To love myself like I want my daughter to love herself, and all women, because we all deserve to feel good in our own skin, to freely express who we are and to whole-heartedly, unapologetically, love who we are.
I created The Grounded Woman coaching membership to help other women who are just like I was, but unlike me, you don't have to walk it alone. Together we gently explore the layers of who you are beneath the noise of expectation, rediscover what lights you up, and create space for you to feel grounded, nourished, and at home in yourself.
If you would like to know more please click here to go to my Work With Me page.